The ROI Trap: When We Expect Too Much From Our Time A coachee once told me he feels anxious whenever he has to deal with government offices. Even simple tasks like obtaining a certificate or submitting a form made him uncomfortable. He would procrastinate and even avoid the task. At first glance,
Why “We are like a family” can create disappointment at work. A coachee once came to me unhappy with his workplace. He said: “People here are not supportive. My manager doesn’t really have my back. And my colleagues don’t feel like my kind of people.” On the surface, it sounded like a
A couple of years ago, one of my mentees called me. He had just joined a new company. Bigger title, leadership role and a larger team. It was a clear step up compared to his previous role. He asked me, – “It’s a bigger role now. How should I navigate this situation
Procrastination. When someone complains, “I keep procrastinating” on something important, the natural instinct of the listener is to think ‘Oh, maybe he/she is lazy”, “Oh, it’s a poor time management problem.” Then one might prescribe habit trackers, morning routines, accountability, productivity apps and whatnot! They do help sometimes. Not always. After I
A young professional I coached recently shared his story. He had just landed his first job out of college. Moved to a Tier-1 city. Good salary — enough to live good life, explore the city, save and invest a decent amount. The early days were thrilling. New job, new friends, new restaurants,
Identity. Ever wondered why some senior executives — financially secure for life — continue doing roles they dislike? I used to wonder the same. Once, during a candid conversation, an executive opened up. He said, “I continue because it scares me to see who I am without this title.” It wasn’t about
Anger. The topic comes up frequently in coaching conversations. When someone tells me ’I get angry when…’, I get curious. Not about the anger itself, but about what’s sitting underneath that emotion. Because anger is rarely the first emotion. Most of the time, it’s masking something else — something harder to admit.
Many years ago, I moved from a team-first culture to one that celebrated individual heroes.Same person. Same words.But suddenly, many things I said seemed to mean something different. It took a while to realise — communication doesn’t travel well across cultures. Here’s how the same words can mean very different things depending
“Why does this small product change take so much time? Why is tech so slow? It’s frustrating.” If you’re a PM, you’ve probably heard this complaint many many times. Especially when you work in a company that is not product or tech-first. During those moments, you have two choices in how you
I once asked a coachee to track his emotions through the day. One afternoon, he met a friend who had just received a golden visa and was preparing to move abroad. He congratulated his friend but noticed an odd feeling inside him. Later, he recognised it as “envy”. When he told me,
