Spiritual bypassing of emotions When I ask some coachees how they felt about a situation or a loss, they end up explaining it using statements like: “I understand that this is all my ego that is causing this suffering”, “The universe is teaching me detachment”, “I am suffering due to my identity
Coachee: “I didn’t get the promotion I deserved” Me: “Okay… and how did that feel?” Coachee: It probably makes sense—could be budget, visibility, or org priorities.” Me: “Not the explanation. What did you feel?” Coachee: “I mean, these things happen. It’s part of the process. I should try harder next time” Me:
One of the stressful things about a manager’s life is having to remember the details of every team member’s work. Managers are required to answer questions from their boss, senior management, stakeholders, investors etc. for which they need to remember details of team members’ day-to-day work and progress. Knowing complete details of
A coachee came to me with a frustration- “I keep postponing quite a few things indefinitely.” When asked about some examples, he mentioned – “I want to start exercising, write stories, and do AI courses. But somehow, I never seem to find the time for these.” Then he paused and added, “The
The ROI Trap: When We Expect Too Much From Our Time A coachee once told me he feels anxious whenever he has to deal with government offices. Even simple tasks like obtaining a certificate or submitting a form made him uncomfortable. He would procrastinate and even avoid the task. At first glance,
Why “We are like a family” can create disappointment at work. A coachee once came to me unhappy with his workplace. He said: “People here are not supportive. My manager doesn’t really have my back. And my colleagues don’t feel like my kind of people.” On the surface, it sounded like a
A couple of years ago, one of my mentees called me. He had just joined a new company. Bigger title, leadership role and a larger team. It was a clear step up compared to his previous role. He asked me, – “It’s a bigger role now. How should I navigate this situation
Procrastination. When someone complains, “I keep procrastinating” on something important, the natural instinct of the listener is to think ‘Oh, maybe he/she is lazy”, “Oh, it’s a poor time management problem.” Then one might prescribe habit trackers, morning routines, accountability, productivity apps and whatnot! They do help sometimes. Not always. After I
A young professional I coached recently shared his story. He had just landed his first job out of college. Moved to a Tier-1 city. Good salary — enough to live good life, explore the city, save and invest a decent amount. The early days were thrilling. New job, new friends, new restaurants,
Identity. Ever wondered why some senior executives — financially secure for life — continue doing roles they dislike? I used to wonder the same. Once, during a candid conversation, an executive opened up. He said, “I continue because it scares me to see who I am without this title.” It wasn’t about
